Lavin has no manners and I'm not surprised (must read)
UPDATE III: Its official. Lavo is now a national embarrassment. BN story is now linked on SI.com and Deadspin. -N
UPDATE II: The story has gone national. AOL's Fanhouse now has a post on it which tracks how the story spread from BN. -N
UPDATE: Bumped. Now that the story is in the LA Times. Note the LAT didn't bother to give BN any credit even though it is pretty clear the story appeared here first. Gotta love the traditional media taking stories from blog and then "reporting" it without any attribution whatsover. Anyways now that the story is out, it should be pretty much clear to everyone else why we have found Lavin to be so detestable, dishonest, scumbag, and a fraud all these years. GO BRUINS. -N
Read the email Steve Lavin sent to his wedding guests. This goes against all rules of wedding etiquette!
Unexpectedly we have received a stunning 95% RSVP on sent out wedding invitations. As a result, our wedding guest list has far exceeded the maximum capacity for a traditional ceremony and reception at The Montage Resort.
After giving serious consideration to alternative plans we have decided the best option at this late stage is to head to Europe to create a magical wedding day.
Please accept our sincere apologies for any inconveniences this change in our wedding plans may have caused you.
We are sorry that we will not be able to share our big day with family and friends. We will be sure to send you photos of our wedding upon our return from Europe.
Please confirm that you received this email.
Thanks in advance for your understanding.
Warm regards,
Steve & Mary
This is a FanPost and does not necessarily reflect the views of BruinsNation's (BN) editors. It does reflect the views of this particular fan though, which is as important as the views of BN's editors.
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Ok
- You say it is real; and,
- I really, really, really, want to believe that this guy is a true scumsucker and this proves it.
unless...
by yellcrew on Jul 9, 2007 1:42 PM PDT up reply actions
It's horrible
My wife is an event planner and there is always a solution to this kind of problem. It's not rocket science to figure out what to do with more guests (especially when you know in advance). And I cannot believe he singled out your friend. Surely, if the wedding goes forward, people would hear about this.
You don't just tell everyong "Kidding!" and take off for Europe.
Wasn't Coach Wooden going to be Best Man? Was he "disinvited," too? By email? This whole thing is just wild.
This can't be true but...
However, I am a caterer and if he is cancelling that wedding, then he is going to lose all of his deposit money which will not be a small amount.
If he did send that email, my guess is that he is trying to throw off wedding crashers who, we all know won't be there to see his Flintstone head.
Or he is trying to shake loose some not-so-necessary guests and then will make private calls to those he still wants attending.
I wonder if Moose Bailey made the list? He owes lavin a lot for the free education he received at the expense of the Bruin Basketball team
OK, that's it
Free advice
You haven't met Mr. BB
Mr. BB spent more time with the registry than I think is healthy for the average man.
by bruinbabe2000 on Jul 9, 2007 3:54 PM PDT up reply actions
Funny story about a blender
We were at Target, and I forget what items he was thinking of buying, but one of them was a blener. When he asked me which one I would be least excited to open as a wedding gift, I said the blender, which he immediatly purchased.
by bruinbabe2000 on Jul 9, 2007 4:03 PM PDT up reply actions
Another important point
The proper answer is always "Yes Dear".
Arty is once again correct
And you'll love getting "the look" when you come in after a tough day at the office. "What's the matter," you'll say, and that's wrong. It's wrong because that gives her a chance to say, "Well if you don't know, I'm certainly not going to tell you." When you get the look, leave, go to the local Kwikee Mart, buy a rose, and present it to her because you just felt like it. And hope that she hasn't changed the locks on the house. (And you never will know what it is that caused "the look.")
Oh, Tasser, you're so lucky to be getting all this advice from your Bruin Brothers.
Looks
Mine has 3 looks:
Level 1
Pay attention and read the signs and everything will be OK......or
Level 2
Just admit your wrong and move on.....or
Level 3
You don't want to know about level 3, it scares me and I'm practically fearless.
Remember, if the wife/mother is not happy, no one will be happy.
Experience brings pearls of wisdom in this area. Use it as you see fit.
Ltes not forget to drop the last word of . . .
Please tell Mr. BB that
If I don't have a job lined up right away, it will be nice to have the extra time to set up our apartment the way I want it.
by bruinbabe2000 on Jul 9, 2007 3:57 PM PDT up reply actions
One final thought
Bill
Again, please tell Mr. BB that
by bruinbabe2000 on Jul 9, 2007 4:06 PM PDT up reply actions
This HAS to be a joke, right?
That being said, we ARE talking about a guy who showed the kind of foresight you need to NOT RECRUIT A SINGLE TRUE POINT GUARD to have on the roster his last 2 years...
Guy couldn't effectively plan for and manage 12 guys -- why would he be able to handle a couple hundred or so?
M
confirmation
this is 100% true
by SuinBruin on Jul 9, 2007 5:56 PM PDT reply actions
Unbelievable ...
What a SCumbag.
You've all lost that Lavin feeling
if only we had "eloped" with our basketball program and uninvited Lavin to be our head coach ...
by DumpDorrell on Jul 9, 2007 7:45 PM PDT reply actions
If he gets married in Europe
Oh man....
by sbizzy57 on Jul 9, 2007 11:47 PM PDT reply actions
FWIW
Thanks fellas!
The worst thing about this
by DumpDorrell on Jul 10, 2007 8:33 AM PDT reply actions
Having gone through the wedding hoopla myself
First, as a couple of people have mentioned, if this resort is the five star place they say it is, they would bend over backwards to accomidate you. They ask you right away how many people you are inviting and you go from there.
Second, it must have cost them a pretty penny to cancel, as others have mentioned.
Which leads me to believe that they couldn't make their guaranteed head count. Instead of a 95% attendace, they meant 95% regrets and paying the cancellation fees were better than the embaressment of such a low attended wedding.
From what others have told me, he is pretty good when it comes to burning bridges. This just proves them right.
by bruinbabe2000 on Jul 10, 2007 8:48 AM PDT up reply actions
Update from the Fishwrap
http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/bruin/2007/07/coach-lav-leave.html
My comment on LAT blog
You have a source on this OTHER than BruinsNation, right? Because basically doing nothing besides cutting and pasting from a blog, while kind of sketchy already, without attribution is just plain unethical.
by Westwood Wizard on Jul 10, 2007 9:50 AM PDT reply actions
This guy was UCLA's headcoach??!!??
The answer, of course, is Pete Dalis. Dalis handed over to this bozo clown the most esteemed program in college sports.
Howland is a rare exception, but UCLA has a pattern of these clown hirings.
The next circus begins September.
Re Coach Howland's predecessor -
And there are so many others that James the Great would have used about this guy.
My old man and I were talking about Healy
May he always rest in peace.
by bruinbabe2000 on Jul 10, 2007 10:36 AM PDT up reply actions
Gee, I didn't know that either
"...reporting, Patrick Healy, son of Jim Healy..."
I would not have blamed him for it.
You got that right
Again, I request the keeper of knowledge of these things to remind us where the Healy tribute site is. It's worth spending a half an hour or so there.
Here's one
The Benoit Benjamin one cracks me up every time.
by bruinbabe2000 on Jul 10, 2007 8:55 PM PDT up reply actions
BB, that was very kind of you
It sounds like this may be real
Lavin and wedding
Bill
2 plagiarisms in one day, looking for the Trifecta
by DumpDorrell on Jul 10, 2007 11:36 AM PDT reply actions
The LA Times
Fewer stories. Shorter stories. Same old Trojan bias. The paper won't even acknowledge my complaining emails anymore. And if you hold up all sections of the paper to the light, you can almost see through it. It's that thin.
Fox, you will be proud. I have reduced my subscription to "weekends only" and have dropped delivery from Monday through Friday. I figured that if the LAT was going to continually reduce both quantity and quality, then I need not pay the same price for a lesser and smaller product.
And remember, I'm a 20 year subscriber. It's all about the baby steps.
Newspapers in LA
Well
To some folks (like me), there is still something about holding on to an actual paper edition of the paper. I don't know what it is, but I enjoy it. And I do find a way to read the thing, even if I have to read a little in the morning, then finish it later at night.
I realize I am a dying breed with this opinion, but I think, for the foreseeable future, printed papers will still hang on, although their format is changing because of the internet (and they are also obviously hurting because of the net).
But I have been a faithful subscriber for nearly 20 years and have seriously enjoyed the Times, aside from certain writers in the sports pages, and the bias which I believe exists.
But with all of the recent turnover and budget saving measures at the Times, it's really a thin rag these days. It's a shame. It's like watching a dying animal in its last throes, except I do not think it will actually die out completely.
do u c? it is 2 kool 2 B me.
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by bruinbabe2000 on Jul 10, 2007 1:25 PM PDT up reply actions
That is one reason
And the wife enjoys the comic pages, too. She would hit me if she knew I just wrote that.
Except it's true.
Story about the comics
My brother and I laughed about that for a long time.
by bruinbabe2000 on Jul 10, 2007 8:51 PM PDT up reply actions
I know
The actual paper
Thank you , Barnes
Kids, don't try this at home. I'm a trained professional.
From the AOL Fanhouse article above
I would say plagiarism by an LA Times writer is much worse than plagiarism by a Daily Bruin writer (if either of them are cases of plagiarism).
Laying aside whether it is or isn't
Ah well. Maybe the ethical generation gap is showing.
From this morning's LA Times
Thank God!
Although now I wonder if Coach Wooden was planning to attend the wedding, even if not as Best Man. Was he also the recipient of Lavinoma's mass email saying ixnay to the whole event?
The whole thing disgusts me. I would love to hear from the people at the Montage about this. For those of you who have not been there, it is an unbelievable 5 star resort in Laguna. Great to relax with a $16 glass of cheap wine.
I will say it again: I think Lavin has some bucks. I am sure the Montage, being what it is, would have worked out some type of accommodation with the "unexpected" additional guests to the event (assuming Stevo coughed up some more dough).
I could be wrong but I think there is more to all this. Is it worth digging into? In the grand scheme of things, no, but it's a juicy story, no doubt.
Is anything more needed?
I would prefer using the energy to figure a way to intensify the scrutiny on the thugs over on Figueroa.
(Having said that, I confess that I still look at the National Inquirer when I'm going through the check-out lines. So if it were determined that the RSVP's said that 95% would be no-shows rather than vice-versa, it would be fun to see how Coach Howland's predecessor would spin that one away.)
Yep, I confess I look to
My guess is that is that it's a 95% no show. If this is the five store resort that Barnes2JJ says it is (and I have no reason to think that it wouldn't be) they would have easily accomidated those guests.
But I'm ready to move on. We all have better things to talk about.
by bruinbabe2000 on Jul 11, 2007 8:11 PM PDT up reply actions
Something else is up.
Now let's suppose he did do exactly what he said he did and let's also assume his guest list was 200 (which is huge and probably isn't what he had but it will help make my point). If you assume that 95% won't attend, you have to assume that at least 75% will attend. Well, 95% of 200 = 190. 75% = 150. My point is that you can find space for 40 people or 4 more rounds (round tables that seat 10 people). If the guest list is smaller, say 150, then you are only looking for 3 more tables.
And finally I have to use my favorite go to piece of common sense: What is everyone else doing? And by that I mean if everyone else who gets married in the US is applying this 95% theory and we have all been to plenty of weddings, then why haven't anyone of us ever been on the receiving side of one of the "disinvites" ?
My guess is that he probably didn't want to explain why Coach wasn't at the wedding.
And to answer BB's comment about something better to do. Yes, I do but pointing out lav's absurdities is a great time out from my office work that I so dread.
EXACTLY!
My gut feeling remains that they were disappointed
The other thing that seemed very odd to me was the way the email ended with "warm regards". If these are family and friends, I think "All our love" or something to that extent is appropriate. "Warm regards" is something you use for a business relationship.
by bruinbabe2000 on Jul 12, 2007 10:27 AM PDT up reply actions
Come on, BB
You just reminded me of an episode of
It's two months today, so I still get the "Good night my dear wife." However, we'll see about next month after we actually move in together and have to work as a team.
by bruinbabe2000 on Jul 12, 2007 4:48 PM PDT up reply actions

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